The first run up the ladder of the spiritual life is to know God is God, that nothing else in this life be allowed to give us satisfaction or that which consumes our daily lives. We must reach out to God before we can even thing of living a God-life. We must come to the understanding that we are not our own destinies.
The next step up the ladder is the knowing if God is the center of my life, the be all, end all, then we must accept the will of God, realizing that in it, and only in it, will we find the fullness of life for us, no matter how obscure. The question is raised, how do we know the will of God? How do we seperate the will of God from our own? How do we know when to resist the opposition and to embrace the pain and accept the bitterness because "God wills it for us." The answer is found in the fact that the Jesus Christ who said, "I have come not to do my own will but the will of the One who sent me." This is also the prayer Jesus prayed in the Garden of Gethsemane, when He said, "Let this chalic pass from me." The will of God for us is what remains of a situation after we try without stint and pray without ceasing to change it.
It is being totally and completely to the will of God that our salvation was bought there in the Garden of Gethsemane when Christ said, "...not my will, but your will be done..." It is when we make this commitment that we can begin our trek on that road which is narrow and exceedingly difficult.
It is so simple, so simplistic, to argue that we live for the God we do not see when we reject the obligations we do see. Words and lip service are meaningless without action. How can we lay claim to following Christ whom we do not see, when we refuse to love unconditionally those who are with us in this life?